| I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard | | | | the point of hopelessness before I suceeded? |
| someone say that! When I ran a support group | | | | Well, my theory boils down to this: When you |
| for my local infertility organization, | | | | lower your resistance, you make room for |
| practically every woman in the group who got | | | | success. So what does that mean? When you |
| pregnant said that very thing.Infertility | | | | want something so bad, and it's not |
| chips away at your self esteem and it makes | | | | happening, you focus more on what you don't |
| you believe that you're unworthy of the most | | | | have instead of what you do have or what you |
| basic of human needs. If you've been | | | | want. You try to force things into |
| struggling with infertility for over a year | | | | place.When you finally give up, the flood |
| (or two or three), you begin to believe that | | | | gates open. Your dream starts chasing you |
| getting pregnant is this impossible dream - | | | | instead of the other way around. I've had so |
| it's soooo way out there that you'll never | | | | many people say, "You are so lucky to get |
| achieve it. Well...it may be helpful for you | | | | pregnant naturally at your age". Well... I |
| to know that almost everyone in your | | | | have something to say about that too. I |
| situation has felt that way.A couple of weeks | | | | truly believe that you make your own luck. |
| before I found out I was pregnant with my | | | | Yes, getting pregnant naturally at the age of |
| daughter, I was ready to throw in the towel. | | | | 44 with only one tube had an element of luck, |
| I told everyone in the support group I was | | | | but it probably had more to do with |
| moving on to childfree, and my husband and I | | | | preparedness meeting opportunity. I had |
| started making some real plans for the | | | | refined my pregnancy protocol over six years |
| future. For the past six years our lives | | | | and I think I had fine tuned my body to the |
| revolved around timing intercourse, taking | | | | point that I had a high liklihood of success |
| pregnacy tests, having miscarriages (and | | | | give the right conditions.So when I say "If I |
| sometimes surgery to remove them), and | | | | can get pregnant, anyone can", I mean it. |
| spending every waking moment wondering if I | | | | Prepare your body, do everything you can to |
| had done everything possible to conceive.And | | | | optimize your chances of conception, then get |
| then, just when I had made peace with my | | | | out of the way! Don't try so hard that you |
| decision to move on to childfree, the | | | | sabotage your success. Things will happen |
| "impossible" happened - I was pregnant. Why | | | | when the time it right. |
| is life like that? Why did I have to get to | | | | |