| I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard someone | | | | hopelessness before I suceeded? Well, my theory |
| say that! When I ran a support group for my local | | | | boils down to this: When you lower your resistance, |
| infertility organization, practically every woman in the | | | | you make room for success. So what does that |
| group who got pregnant said that very thing.Infertility | | | | mean? When you want something so bad, and it's |
| chips away at your self esteem and it makes you | | | | not happening, you focus more on what you don't |
| believe that you're unworthy of the most basic of | | | | have instead of what you do have or what you |
| human needs. If you've been struggling with infertility | | | | want. You try to force things into place.When you |
| for over a year (or two or three), you begin to | | | | finally give up, the flood gates open. Your dream |
| believe that getting pregnant is this impossible dream | | | | starts chasing you instead of the other way around. |
| - it's soooo way out there that you'll never achieve it. | | | | I've had so many people say, "You are so lucky to |
| Well...it may be helpful for you to know that almost | | | | get pregnant naturally at your age". Well... I have |
| everyone in your situation has felt that way.A couple | | | | something to say about that too. I truly believe that |
| of weeks before I found out I was pregnant with | | | | you make your own luck. Yes, getting pregnant |
| my daughter, I was ready to throw in the towel. I | | | | naturally at the age of 44 with only one tube had an |
| told everyone in the support group I was moving on | | | | element of luck, but it probably had more to do with |
| to childfree, and my husband and I started making | | | | preparedness meeting opportunity. I had refined my |
| some real plans for the future. For the past six years | | | | pregnancy protocol over six years and I think I had |
| our lives revolved around timing intercourse, taking | | | | fine tuned my body to the point that I had a high |
| pregnacy tests, having miscarriages (and sometimes | | | | liklihood of success give the right conditions.So when |
| surgery to remove them), and spending every | | | | I say "If I can get pregnant, anyone can", I mean it. |
| waking moment wondering if I had done everything | | | | Prepare your body, do everything you can to |
| possible to conceive.And then, just when I had made | | | | optimize your chances of conception, then get out of |
| peace with my decision to move on to childfree, the | | | | the way! Don't try so hard that you sabotage your |
| "impossible" happened - I was pregnant. Why is life | | | | success. Things will happen when the time it right. |
| like that? Why did I have to get to the point of | | | | |